Coping With Stroke

My dad had a massive stoke 1995 left in a wheel chair. This was one of many strokes. They gave him 3 months to live so we decided to take him home to die. He fighted agaist all the odds , we encouraged him every minite of the day, telling him he could pull through this do not give up, you have a lot to live for . He was only 49 he could not talk or move, he was 23 stone and we had no hoist to help move him arround. So i was all down to myself and husband and my mum, it was 14 hour care, it was not easy , we went through lots of emmotions. He cold not eat, he was on drips that feed him every four hours.

It was very hard work, after a few weeks he started to smile and tryed to talk, hes colour came back in his face. What a result. He then started to move hes arms, hes was pulling the drips out of his nose, so myself and mum decided to feed him on yougurts then we moved on to baby foods, day by day he was getting stronger. He then had speach theapy which only made him frustrated, so we stopped it.

We exercised his legs and arms 3 to 4 times a day, the thepest will show you how to do this.anyway day by day he was gaining strengh. His speach was very hard for him to regain, we always spoke to him, never ever left out of conversation, and little by little you could understand everything he was saying. He sounding so different, which the doctor said the reason for this was one side of his face was num and it stayed num. Over time he got better, he started to eat proper meals like us drink anything. He could move his arms and legs quite well. He could walk the distance to the loo and back wiyh help.

We past the 3 months the doctoe gave him , he carried on fighting for 10 years, he died in 2004 of a massive heart attack The advice i give to any one going through what i went through is to be strong for your love one , lots of encouragement, make them believe they have reason to fight it. My dad told us he heard everything we said to him he just could,ent anser, my dad also he felt like giving up many times but did,ent because of myself my mum and he wanted to see his grandchildren grow up. Sometimes the doctors are not always right. A few years later i took my dad back to that hospital to see the doctor who told me my dad would not see christmas, he said my dad was a miracle to pull through waht he did the odds were against him, so as i said be strong, encouragment, never think they can,t hear you speak to them not at them or about them. I hope this helps.